How do YOU want to be remembered? Unfortunately as humans, we find more delight (why? I am not sure….) in dwelling on the negatives instead of the positives. We gravitate more to bad news, than good news. We enjoy talking about each other in critical ways, more than discussing the good in someone. I mean, really ~ do you ever hear people sitting around talking about how awesome someone is? Generally it is more, “Did you hear that so and so did THIS? and what’s his name had the nerve to do THAT…blah blah blah.”
I figure there is a distinct possibility when I am gone from this earth, I may only be remembered for the black marks on my life. My mistakes, bad choices, failures, stupid moves, and on and on. Ugh. So, go ahead. Take note of ALL of them. Count them one by one if you want. THEN remember this above all of that ~ SHE MADE MISTAKES, BAD CHOICES, STUPID MOVES AND ON AND ON….BUT SHE NEVER GAVE UP. To me, THAT is what I want to be remembered for.
We each have a road to walk, and we all wish we knew THEN what we know NOW. (sigh) I have come to the conclusion that I cannot offer to others that life is easy, or predictable, or without suffering, or without black marks…..what I CAN offer is that GIVING UP IS NOT AN OPTION. You fell? Get up. You failed? Try again. You made a bad choice? Make a good one. You did something stupid? Own it.
I will never offer my inspirational thoughts out of a perfect life. I don’t live in a white house with a white picket fence. And you know what? I used to WANT to; in fact that was my goal in life. NOW I am grateful that I have hit the dirt, that I have felt like the scum on the bottom of the barrel, (or wad of gum stuck to a shoe). It has taught me compassion. It has taught me endurance. It has taught me not to judge. It has taught me that there is ALWAYS tomorrow to try again.