There are days. No. There are weeks. No. There are YEARS, when you can feel like you just don’t fit in. Period. It is such an insecure place to feel like you just don’t belong anywhere. I think we all feel that way time to time. There are tragedies that can completely change the landscape of your life, and make you feel lost in a place that used to be wonderfully familiar.

I have had some events in my life that have left me unsettled and uprooted, and feeling like I was a random misplaced piece of some random 500 piece puzzle, in some random dusty attic. You do not choose to feel that way; it literally just happens. 

Today it hit me that I am NOT a misplaced piece of a  puzzle. I am a MISSING piece. And not missing from some random puzzle. There is a 500 piece puzzle out there missing just one piece to complete it. Yup, that’d be ME. Somewhere I fit and no one else can fill that spot but me.

The same goes for YOU. We all matter; we all belong; and we are all important. It’s NOT just any random puzzle in some random dusty attic. You were made to fulfill one specific purpose, and to be the piece that links all the other pieces together. Do not ever for a minute think you are not important. If so, you need to go buy a 500 piece puzzle; take ONE piece out and throw it in the trash. Then take a couple weeks to finish the puzzle (in your spare time…), and see how the picture looks, with ONE. MISSING. PIECE. I think you get the picture (no pun intended 🙂 )Image



You have heard the expression ’empty nest syndrome’. The problem with the nest you raise your kids in, is this. When they fly away, you are left in that nest ALONE!  All of a sudden it doesn’t feel safe and secure anymore. It starts to wobble from the slightest breeze blowing on it; and God forbid a storm comes trying to blow it away. Sitting in an empty nest that used to be jam pack full, is just NOT fun, and is actually quite unnerving.

This is where I find myself, and so today I decided to try looking at my empty nest with the Glass-Half-Full attitude. (I don’t remember ever hearing about a glass that is EMPTY….) Okay – here goes.

I can SING as loud as I want – anytime. I can stay in my pajamas for, oh a WEEK, if I want to. (Though I don’t, but I COULD). I can take random road trips, I can rule the TV remote, I don’t have to cook dinner (awww, I LIKE doing that…). Anyways, back on track – I can embrace every small joy of life that I did NOT have time to do, or to notice, and I can up and move to LA for a few months to finish the journey of my book (yup, doing that shortly)….and hey, I will go for long walks by the ocean, drink an overload of coffee, talk to myself (and God), play my music in the car  AS LOUD AS I WANT, and dance without eyes rolling at me…haha. No, not true. My kids did that with me. Geesh, Can you see the battle here? I miss EVERYTHING about my huge family; my crazy- loud- full life. I  may NEVER be a fan of this empty nest, BUT I will do what I always do – take it one day at a time.

Image My life story is just NOT over yet. And who knows, what unexpected surprises could be ahead. I choose to embrace this new chapter. I will cry, and laugh simultaneously. (Maybe I shall also wear a purple hat. 🙂 ) Um, NO.

I hope this encourages you to do the same, in whatever unfinished journey you are on. 🙂 Embrace it, and walk on. And SING AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS 🙂


I am not a runner; I do however understand the whole concept of it. You run to get to a goal;  you run to reach a finish line; you run for a cause; you run to get healthy; you run to de-stress; you run because something inside you drives you to do it. 

So I guess I AM a runner, in this great race we call LIFE. Today I was thinking how I found some victory and some closure in some decision making; only to totally get slapped up side the head as I rounded the next corner. It just reminded me NEVER to assume, never to get too comfortable, and NEVER to think I have arrived at the finish line. (yet)

I like to compare life to a long road. It is a journey, not a destination – as the saying goes. This so helps me when I face something unexpected, or something I did NOT see coming, or some unthinkable tragedy. It’s just the road I am on. This road for all of us, has different landscapes, and different hurdles to jump, but we are all headed to a finish line. Our attitude must be – I will NOT give up. I will NOT look back. I will NOT be distracted. I will NOT whine or play the victim. I WILL run this race all the way to the end, no matter what next hurdle pops up in front of me. I will actually LOOK ahead, and figure its COMING, so I need to be ready to JUMP OVER IT.


My eyes are wide open, and fixed on the goal. 🙂 


There is a LIE we have all had whispered in our ear. The one that whispers – you are not good enough!!! When we hear that we start to compare ourselves to others, size up our life to others who seem to have it all together, notice every flaw and failure and inconsistency, and soon we are choking on the lie. It consumes us, with the goal of destroying us.Image

There is only ONE Voice I choose to listen to – key word is CHOOSE. That whisper in my ear is a whisper for a reason -it doesn’t have the courage, or the facts, to shout the lie at me. THE VOICE OF TRUTH THUNDERS LIKE THE ROAR OF A LION!




I am a creature of habit. I like to be organized; and have all my ducks in a row. Well, my ducks have all waddled away, or got shot. I am at a very unorganized season of my life; and I can’t put ducks in a row that simply are not there. I speak in analogy, but maybe someone knows the feeling. I realize it’s MY choice how I respond to where I find myself. I refuse to miss the fresh new moments a day holds, because I feel temporarily rattled. The sun just came up as it always does, and THAT is good enough for me. The rest is always open for discussion. 🙂Image




 Life goes by really fast. No, I mean REALLY fast. My kids are catching up with my age. As a couple of them reached 30, I was stunned at the speed of which my life had gone. Right at about 100mph, shooting right past me. I can either spend the rest of my life freaked out about this, or I can take a deep breath, and squeeze as much out of each and every day as humanly possible. Time passes you by, whether you are enjoying it or not, so it makes way more sense to enjoy it!!  And remember, 50 is the new 30, so we get to be younger a little while extra. (not really, but it sounds good in its essence).